Don't Say I Never Told You

A guide to life from a loving father to his millennial daughters

"Girls, over my life I always sort counsel from my parents.  It is very rewarding to see that you are doing the same with me and your mother and long may it continue. However, the sudden death of a friend, who was younger and fitter than me, has been a reminder that there is no guarantee of me being available to you.  So, just in case, here are my thoughts for you and any of your peers who happen to come across this three-part series."

Throughout the three-part series, I have designed checklists and evaluation tools to help you on your journey. These E-templates are available to all readers free of charge.

Series 1 warms up with chapters on family and friends and winning personal habits before moving onto the heavier stuff of personal development.

Series 2 covers your other half, you and your money, and health and well-being.

Series 3 covers winning work habits, forging a career worth having, and some tips for millennial managers.

Each series contains advice, tips and techniques that could change your life, as it has mine.

Caveat

"Girls, the advice contained in these series has come from a variety of sources. From discussions I had with your grandparents, attending self-development courses, making mistakes and absorbing information from those much wiser than me.

I have not always followed the advice laid out here. I don’t see a problem in that. Do you? For these series is not about me, it is about you and your future."

Varied and I hope interesting topics

I hope there are topics here that hit you ‘left field’, that push you in a direction that changes your life for the better. I have no idea which ones will resonate the most with you so I am simply firing a shotgun in your general direction and hopefully some pellets will surely hit the target.

I have included sections on:

  • How to complete your life’s purpose (your Ikigai) and your treasure map so your life has a direction you have actively chosen

  • The twenty things to do when buying your first home

  • What to check when intending to make a major career change

  • Finding Wally - tips to help you find a life partner worth keeping

  • Guidelines when weighing up should you stay or should you leave a relationship

  • How to ascertain your natural talents which you should turn into strengths

  • How to face tough times

  • Handling a tyrant of a boss

  • Steps to help you find the right job and avoid being conned

  • Being more effective with your time

  • How to handle your personal baggage

  • How to find good flatmates

  • Having hobbies and interests that provide you with a safe haven

  • Tips to secure your financial future

  • Think how you want to be remembered

 

Note of thanks to the reviewers

Girls, besides your valuable contribution, these series has also been reviewed by millennials amongst our family friends. I am immensely grateful to all of you for your help in shaping the content. I hope you recognise your comments printed in these series.

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Free E-Templates

Personal Baggage Checklist

From the time we enter this world, we develop traits and habits that will limit our potential. We will always be running with a few cylinders misfiring unless we fully understand our behaviour patterns and their impact on those around us. It is important to understand that to function well you do not have to have handled all of your personal baggage; the key is the awareness of your weaknesses.

Comparing Competing Job Offers Checklist

Always remember that the interviewer will have over sold the job.  You need to make sure the next organisation is going to be a better fit, or at least part of your proposed career journey.

The Six Types of Friends Checklist

Having done some research I believe there are six types of friends:

  • Your ‘bury the body for’ friends (I will explain later)

  • Your ‘hobby’ friends

  • Your ‘mentor’ friends

  • Your ‘love to see you kiss, kiss’ energizer friends

  • Your friends from work

  • Your friends from your distant past

The key is to have balance and to rekindle some friendships you have left unattended.

A Date Screening Checklist

With a good profile you will attract more wo/men that you might be interested in so you need to screen them with a checklist so you should only engage in conversation with those above a certain score, and only go out on a date with those with an even higher score.

Finding a Mentor Checklist

Only the foolish venture forward, without having a mentor supporting them, from behind the scenes. In business, many costly failures could have been averted if advice had been sought from a trusted and wise mentor.  The key is the selection (and use) of your mentor/adviser and realizing that just because you have asked once, this does not preclude a second or third request for help.

First Home Property Checklist - Know what you want

Only the foolish venture forward, without having a mentor supporting them, from behind the scenes. In business, many costly failures could have been averted if advice had been sought from a trusted and wise mentor.  The key is the selection (and use) of your mentor/adviser and realizing that just because you have asked once, this does not preclude a second or third request for help.